I heal myself! Contents Let’s begin Instructions for use Gender I feel addressed as female I feel addressed as male 01 My Journey Step 1It was me I was waiting for I recognise my excuses I start shaping my own life My tool: the Diary of Disappointments (DoD) Step 2I stay centred Breathing Setting boundaries. Clear. Flexible. Real. Step 3I’m a good mother to myself The programmes of my childhood Six wounds that shaped me My reality was denied I was not seen I was moulded My boundaries were not respected Appearances were everything Feelings were dangerous What love looked like to me as a child I forgive you I forgive myself I feel. Therefore I am. The child in me I’m good to myself Step 4I’m doing really well Trust is fragile Building trust – in you Reliability Boundaries Responsibility Discretion Sincerity Helpfulness Generosity When trust breaks Building trust – in myself I practise with my DoD Step 5I have enough time for everything I worry How do I get out of this Becoming aware Noticing Accepting Changing direction I am a role model 02 My Light Introduction Spot 1Self-protection: I break open my armour Love is the reward for falling into line My eight suits of armour I expect the worst I mustn’t make a mistake I numb myself He who brakes, loses I charge straight in I make myself scarce Look how much I am suffering I am the coolest one here I take off my armour Spot 2The fear of embarrassment: I am not my mistakes Shame Guilt or shame – there is a difference I check the evidence Shame lives in hiding I don’t have to earn my worth Spot 3Expectations: I am enough Who do I compare myself with? Do I question my self-worth? How do I get out of it? How do I deal with criticism? Spot 4Partnership: I let you get close to me The perfect man The perfect woman When shame enters love We overcome shame Spot 5Self-care: I heal my inner child Protecting my inner child An anchor ends the alarm Spot 6Community: I belong Taking off the armour Door-opener sentences I don’t point the finger at others What I pass on Closing 03 My Love (in progress)
